Those of you who know me are aware that I am in pretty good shape for the shape I am in and able to do about anything I choose to do. So this morning I was taken aback to say the very least. I left home in high spirits and picked Teresa up and headed out for breakfast. Our chosen venue this morning was a resturant on the Northside. I like it because it has a very big breakfast menu. Very good bacon also. It shall remain nameless because I am not wanting to cast them in a bad light, just wanting to vent. I will send them a link to this blog so they can assess thier policies.
So we entered and crossed to the Hostess area where we were met by a chipper young girl who is no doubt in training. She was being supervised by an older lady who appeared to be very capable and imparted this to the young trainee. From there it was down hill. The older lady greeted us and then looking directly in my eyes asked, "Are you capable of walking to the table in the back room or shall I seat you closer?"
"What!? What?!" was the only response I could come up with at that moment. I envisioned that perhaps she was going to seat us at a resturant down the block.
" Well, it is a ways to the back of the dining area and I just wondered if you could walk that far because if you can't I can seat you closer."
Now I have often used the term "I damn near had an apoplexy," and in that moment I knew how one would feel. Until that moment I had never felt old. I pride myself in my physical condition, and here was someone I had never lain eyes on before insinuating that perhaps I was not capable of walking across the room.
I muttered something about how I could out walk, out run, and out last her any day of the week and her time would be better served helping damn near anyone but me. At that point I was led away by Teresa and the young trainee. But it was too late. The damage was done. I even tried to tell Teresa that the remarks were maybe meant for her and not me, but she was not buying that either. Of course, my initial reaction was that I had misunderstood her. My second reaction was that I should wrap my fingers around her throat. As the day wore on and I have reflected on the interchange, I have run the gambit of actions I should take and the answer is none.
My first choice had been to report her to her superior because her remarks definitely hurt me. Was I the only one she had spoken to in this way? Probably not. Should she be fired? She is definitely not an asset to the business. She probably needs her job and she may actually think she is being kind in not making people walk far to a table.
I fully intended to quietly tell her that she should be a little more aware of how she talked to people and how she had made me feel, but she was not at the desk when I left. I do think we can all take a lesson from this and think twice and speak once. Words that are meant with the best intentions some times do not fall on ears that appreciate them.
So to the lady who ruined what started out to be a beautiful day in June, I have this to say; I have forgotten what you look like. I have forgotten the tone of your voice. And tomorrow I will have forgotten your words. I do hope you some how find this and recognize yourself and learn a few people skills. Mother always taught us to treat everyone as we wanted to be treated. Even the Bible tells us to do unto others as we would have them do unto us.
So there you go on my fun day. Just try to spread a little happiness some where along the way and it will come back to you seven fold, shaken down and poured out. I will try to remember that.
So we entered and crossed to the Hostess area where we were met by a chipper young girl who is no doubt in training. She was being supervised by an older lady who appeared to be very capable and imparted this to the young trainee. From there it was down hill. The older lady greeted us and then looking directly in my eyes asked, "Are you capable of walking to the table in the back room or shall I seat you closer?"
"What!? What?!" was the only response I could come up with at that moment. I envisioned that perhaps she was going to seat us at a resturant down the block.
" Well, it is a ways to the back of the dining area and I just wondered if you could walk that far because if you can't I can seat you closer."
Now I have often used the term "I damn near had an apoplexy," and in that moment I knew how one would feel. Until that moment I had never felt old. I pride myself in my physical condition, and here was someone I had never lain eyes on before insinuating that perhaps I was not capable of walking across the room.
I muttered something about how I could out walk, out run, and out last her any day of the week and her time would be better served helping damn near anyone but me. At that point I was led away by Teresa and the young trainee. But it was too late. The damage was done. I even tried to tell Teresa that the remarks were maybe meant for her and not me, but she was not buying that either. Of course, my initial reaction was that I had misunderstood her. My second reaction was that I should wrap my fingers around her throat. As the day wore on and I have reflected on the interchange, I have run the gambit of actions I should take and the answer is none.
My first choice had been to report her to her superior because her remarks definitely hurt me. Was I the only one she had spoken to in this way? Probably not. Should she be fired? She is definitely not an asset to the business. She probably needs her job and she may actually think she is being kind in not making people walk far to a table.
I fully intended to quietly tell her that she should be a little more aware of how she talked to people and how she had made me feel, but she was not at the desk when I left. I do think we can all take a lesson from this and think twice and speak once. Words that are meant with the best intentions some times do not fall on ears that appreciate them.
So to the lady who ruined what started out to be a beautiful day in June, I have this to say; I have forgotten what you look like. I have forgotten the tone of your voice. And tomorrow I will have forgotten your words. I do hope you some how find this and recognize yourself and learn a few people skills. Mother always taught us to treat everyone as we wanted to be treated. Even the Bible tells us to do unto others as we would have them do unto us.
So there you go on my fun day. Just try to spread a little happiness some where along the way and it will come back to you seven fold, shaken down and poured out. I will try to remember that.
